A few weeks ago we talked about 5 Ways We “Deal” With Our Emotions.
The main point of the post was that, as human beings, we often use unhealthy coping strategies such as externalizing (e.g., alcohol/drugs/cigarettes, overeating), self-sabotage, and “what-if world”. All of these strategies have an immediate payoff, they allow us to avoid thoughts and feelings that we might be unwilling to face in the present moment.
So, if these are unhealthy coping strategies, what are healthy ones??
Take a moment and reflect: what healthy strategies do you use to cope with powerful emotions and thoughts? Here are a 2 commons strategies that I use (though perhaps not as often as I could).
Do you want money? Do you want to help people at a meaningful time in their lives? - Welcome to Angela Mercier- our December Mentor of the Month!
Mrs. Mercier is an inspirational woman who has chosen to use her life experiences to help others with their financial health in a relatively burgeoning field of work!
Read on to learn more about this months’ Mentor of the Month!
If you would’ve told Angela Mercier when she graduated from the University of Saskatchewan with an advanced BA majoring in Psychology, that she’d acquire 15 years of professional business experience working within the automotive industry, and then make a successful transition into Financial Services, she might have been surprised.
1. Here is the link to the featured story about Dr. Wilson in Women Reshaping the World http://limbusco.com/uncategorized/connecting-people-healthy
2. Please go to Inspired Living Medical for updates about new referrals
Do you stigmatize mental illness? Does someone you know? How does that impact you? Others?
Many of us think we are totally accepting and don’t have any stigma left when it comes to mental health issues, and for some of us that may be true- but is it for you?
Answer these five questions and find out for yourself!
Thanks so much to Mr. Chipman for taking the time to answer everyone’s burning questions!!!
1. What do I need to do to start my own IT business?
A: Starting an IT business is no different than starting any other, I believe, although I have never started any other business so could be entirely wrong
Broadly speaking it is quite simple paperwork, (a) pick a name for your business; (b) register with NS government – which is fairly cheap – costs ~$70 per year (c) then register with Canada Revenue Agency for an HST number so you can collect HST. If you are starting small and don’t expect to earn more than $30k in a year, I believe you don’t even have to register for HST – you just have to declare the self-employed income on your personal income tax forms at year-end. (You might want to research this in detail yourself to be certain
(Side Ref: This site seems pretty accurate and detailed: http://sbinfocanada.about.com/cs/startup/a/regnovascotia_2.htm
but you also should read up at the NS Joint Stock Registry website – see the next question for the link ..)
For those of you who are interested, Dr. Wilson will be featured in the Women Reshaping the World e-Newsletter coming out Thursday November 28, 2013. To register to receive this newsletter subscribe online at http://limbusco.com/newsletter.
As humans we don’t like pain. In fact we are programmed to avoid pain, and that includes painful thoughts and painful feelings. Sounds great right?
The problem is, avoidance of feelings is only good as a short-term strategy. For example, if you find yourself in a situation in which allowing yourself to experience your emotions of hurt or anger is not appropriate (e.g., in the middle of a meeting at work), using strategies to avoid emotions is adaptive and helpful. The problem arises, when you don’t take the time to experience those emotions in a more appropriate setting (e.g., at home). Emotions can be thought of as energy, and if you avoid your emotions, and don’t allow yourself to experience them, that energy stays stuck in your body. Avoiding our emotions as a long-term strategy means that the energy needs to be redirected.
Here are 5 of the common things which we as people do that, when used as a long-term strategy, can be damaging, and will get in the way of leading a healthy, fulfilling life.
1. Look to the outside to make us feel better (Externalizing)
We all have stories about ourselves that we invest in, and we don’t think about how it impacts our life, but the truth is it can completely change how we experience our life. The stories we tell ourselves, the ones we were told growing up about who we are/ were and the ones we repeat have power and shape our lives and our experiences.
See this incredible TED talk below and read on…
We are in the home stretch for this series! This is the final post in our series talking about practical things you can do maximize your success when setting goals that matter.
To review so far….
1. Choose a Replacement behaviour that is incompatible with the one we want to eliminate or that helps us focus on our values (the reason it is important to complete this goal in the first place).
2. Rehearse following through on successfully living our values and do this regularly by pairing it with something we do every day (any established behaviour)
Today we are focusing on creating meaningful reminders (the fancy term is External cues) to help keep our commitment to our goal high.
Without further delay, here are the answers to the top 10 questions for October’s Mentor of the Month, Dr. Gardner!
1. What do you like the most about your job?
A while ago I decided to get involved with various mental health support groups. The experiences have been so rewarding, so educational for me, they have become a major part of what I teach, what I research, and how I see the profession of pharmacy moving forward. With colleagues, we have developed More Than Meds (http://morethanmeds.com
), which is a project that is getting pharmacists to partner with communities for better mental health. Continue reading